A State of Mind

1. Don’t hold grudges. Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your wellbeing, including increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you? If you let go of all your grudges, you’ll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.

2. Treat everyone with kindness. Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, but treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.

3. See problems as challenges. The word “problem” is never part of a happy person’s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.

4. Express gratitude for what they already have. There’s a popular saying that goes something like this: “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don’t have.

5. Dream big. People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.

6. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Happy people ask themselves, “Will this problem matter a year from now?” They understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.

7. Speak well of others. Being nice feels better than being mean. As fun as gossiping is, it usually leaves you feeling guilty and resentful. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.

8. Never make excuses. Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that is good for making excuses is seldom
good for anything else.” Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.

9. Get absorbed into the present. Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment. Stop and smell the roses.

10. Wake up at the same time every morning. Have you noticed that a lot of successful people tend to be early risers? Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.

11. Avoid social comparison. Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others? If you think you’re better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs.

12. Choose friends wisely. Misery loves company. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.

13. Never seek approval from others. Happy people don’t care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that it’s impossible to please everyone. Listen to what people have to say, but never seek anyone’s approval but your own.

14. Take the time to listen. Talk less; listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others’ wisdoms and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets, and the more content you feel.

15. Nurture social relationships. A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other.

16. Meditate. Meditating silences your mind and helps you find inner peace. You don’t have to be a zen master to pull it off. Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere and anytime they need to calm their nerves.

17. Eat well. Junk food makes you sluggish, and it’s difficult to be happy when you’re in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your body’s ability to produce hormones, which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus. Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.

18. Exercise. Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft does. Exercising also boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.

19. Live minimally. Happy people rarely keep clutter around the house because they know that extra belongings weigh them down and make them feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Some studies have concluded that Europeans are a lot happier than Americans are, which is interesting because they live in smaller homes, drive simpler cars, and own fewer items.

20. Tell the truth. Lying stresses you out, corrodes your self-esteem, and makes you unlikeable. The truth will set you free. Being honest improves your mental health and builds others’ trust in you. Always be truthful, and never apologize for it.

21. Establish personal control. Happy people have the ability to choose their own destinies. They don’t let others tell them how they should live their lives. Being in complete control of one’s own life brings positive feelings and a great sense of self-worth. Note: This could include being in control of your own business, income and work schedule.

22. Accept what cannot be changed.Once you accept the fact that life is not fair, you’ll be more at peace with yourself. Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is, just focus on what you can control and change it for the better.

Dennis Kelly and ProArgi-9+

With over 34 years of experience in several styles of martial arts, Dennis Kelly has earned the rights to be called “Grand Master Kelly” in the world of martial arts. At the ripe young age of 73, Master Kelly is an 11-time national champion and 5-time world champion in the martial arts arena.

Currently rated number two in the world and the oldest man to ever achieve this status, Grand Master Kelly understands the importance of healthy living and unleashing the power from within. “Age is only a number,” says Master Kelly, “and inside each of us lays a champion.”

As a young man Kelly, as he prefers to be called, was faced with multiple obstacles to overcome. Bombarded by an unstable home life, an abusive alcoholic father, and low self-esteem, Kelly spent much of his youth just trying to get through each day. In his early twenties, after two decades of zero support and ridicule, Kelly decided it was time to prove everyone wrong.

Over the next 25+ years Kelly went from being labeled a “failure” to a complete success in nearly every realm he competed in, from ballroom dance to now, a world champion martial artist at the age of 73.

The power of the mind is essential, however proper nutrition is vital when it comes to competing. When introduced to ProArgi-9+ in 2009, Master Kelly immediately noticed a difference in his physical output and recovery. “I noticed within a few days after using ProArgi-9+ that I was able to increase my workout time by an hour and my recover time after a hard 3-hour workout at the gym was much quicker,” says Kelly. “My strength with the weights also increased by 20% the first week and up to 30% by the third week.”

Amongst his many certifications, Kelly is also a certified sports nutritionist. “I have been researching for years all the information on Nutritional Science I can find and in my opinion, ProArgi-9+ and ProArgi-9+ Active are the most scientifically advanced products of its kind.”

In fact, Kelly attributes the effectiveness of ProArgi-9+ Active to his ability to perform at a recent Pan American International Karate Championship. “I know without a shadow of doubt that the combination of ProArgi-9+ Active and ProArgi-9+ contributed to my best performance of the year.” During this competition, Grand Master Kelly placed second all while competing against 14 other men 20 years younger than he.

For Grand Master Kelly, each day continues to be a new chapter in his legacy. Through personal perseverance, dedication, and a desire to succeed, Grand Master Kelly has created his own story, that for many, is even better than what Hollywood could script.

Congratulations Master Kelly, we look forward to your many future successes!

“Rocks or Diamonds?” Lou Tice

Given a choice, would you rather carry a bag of rocks or a sack of diamonds? Well, we do have a choice and you will be surprised how many people choose rocks.

Abraham Lincoln once said that if you “look for what’s wrong, you will surely find it.” How true this is. The imperfections in ourselves mean we can always find deficits if we try. For a lot of us, it’s much easier to find cracks and faults.

“Building Self Image” Lou Tice

Everyone has a self-image, but how does a self-image get built? And what
does your self-image have to do with who you are, and how you react in
strange or unusual situations?

“Inspiring Your Organization” by Lou Tice (shared by Bobby & Janice Smith)

For over 40 years, I’ve been in the business of helping people and
organizations use more of their potential. Based on my experience, and on
the latest research in cognitive and organizational psychology, here, in a
nutshell, is how to create an organization that inspires people to do their

First, you need an inspiring goal, a common vision of a clearly-defined end
result, shared by everyone, talked about often and affirmed daily. Then,
you need people who believe in their own ability to attain that end result,
to stretch and get creative when it comes to figuring out how they are going
to do it.

You need people who know that if they are going to succeed, they have to
depend on each other, and trust each other, to deliver the goods. Now, you
don’t have to go out and hire these folks. You can do it with people who are
already on the job, if you are willing to spend some time teaching them -
and yourself, if you are a manager – how to be successful.

Next, develop a good system for tracking performance and giving feedback. A
good rule to remember is “what gets measured, gets done.” Finally, reward
desired performance, including innovation and risk-taking, in meaningful
ways to empower people to act and to deal with problems directly at every
level. You will be delighted with the results!

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute, Inc.